tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post5894139268589066834..comments2023-12-02T00:13:13.602-08:00Comments on Silver Parrot: Blogus InterrupticusSilver Parrothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09873603171743392110noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-91542484361666654362011-10-28T15:52:05.938-07:002011-10-28T15:52:05.938-07:00Hi - my 10 year old has ADHD, plus anxiety and mil...Hi - my 10 year old has ADHD, plus anxiety and mild aspergers. We have been threough the wringer with the school system about him. His self-esteem is very fragile which is hard for a parent to deal with, as we want the best for our children.<br /><br />Since you have a diagnosis, what about asking the school if homework is necessary for him or could he do less - an increasing mumber of educaters don't think homework really contributes to the education of elementary school children. My son's school has a no homework policy and it makes our homelife much easier.<br /><br />Medication is a personal decision for every parent with an ADD/ADHD child. In my son's case, he has benefited greatly from meds. But it was not an easy decision. <br /><br />Having a child with exceptionalities can be very isolating. But I would be surprised if there are not other parents in your son's school or in your community who are facing the same issues. It may just be a matter of asking around. Although it is not specific to ADD/ADHD, www.mentoringboys.com is a website with lots of information for parents.<br /><br />Finally, don't ever doubt that you are doing the best that you can do for your child. It may not seem like it sometimes but you are his best advocate. You know what he needs better than anyone else. It sounds like you are already doing a great deal to help your son. It's hard but try not to feel guilty.Susanmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13001612540970050334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-48691194556534240032011-10-26T16:10:28.466-07:002011-10-26T16:10:28.466-07:00So sorry you are going thru this, I know it's ...So sorry you are going thru this, I know it's really hard. Don't worry about blogging right now, just try to get to a better place right now.<br />Wishing you the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-75190939583762503972011-10-25T11:47:43.985-07:002011-10-25T11:47:43.985-07:00Oh Kelly, my heart goes out to you. My sons' ...Oh Kelly, my heart goes out to you. My sons' dad sounds like your son's dad's doppleganger and I know how hard that is, and I didn't/don't have the other issues to deal with. All I know of you I know from this blog, but from that I can tell what a loving, supportive, truly fine mother you are. Keep up the good work and know that there are others, like me, out here who are there for moral support.Do Be Do Bead Dohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17776668704580998133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-81377465041928178412011-10-24T19:16:00.595-07:002011-10-24T19:16:00.595-07:00Hi Kelly,
So sorry to hear you are having so much ...Hi Kelly,<br />So sorry to hear you are having so much trouble. You are a super mom, and don't you forget it. Ryan is the luckiest kid to have you in his corner. <br /><br />I don't have kids nor do I have ADD, but I do take medication for depression. I know that my meds are necessary because my body doesn't make the chemicals for proper function. It's sort of like a diabetic needing insulin. I have a friend whose teenaged daughter was diagnosed with ADD. She was medicated and has done very well with it. She even said that she was so relieved to be able to focus on task.<br /><br />Elisabeth seems to have some great advice. We have your back.<br /><br />EmandaEmandaJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03908128665226502895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-46523406127971681212011-10-22T08:35:36.629-07:002011-10-22T08:35:36.629-07:00I'm sorry things are so rough for you right no...I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. I've sent up a prayer for you and your son.Maria M Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15261081664283796125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-70784522027701403262011-10-22T05:54:05.868-07:002011-10-22T05:54:05.868-07:00Oh, Kelly, so much to deal with. No one wants to l...Oh, Kelly, so much to deal with. No one wants to learn that there child has learning challenges. And there are so many misconceptions about them. I'm glad you recognize that there is not a thing you could do to prevent this. For what it is worth, I have seen children of friends go onto medication and really turn around in their ability to focus in the class room. At the end of the day it's your decision about your son's treatment and you know best what will be right for him.SummersStudiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10250150360701388415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-17781638747720012672011-10-22T05:50:02.692-07:002011-10-22T05:50:02.692-07:00I wish i had some helpful advice for you :(
Hang...I wish i had some helpful advice for you :( <br /><br />Hang in there, and know I'm sending good thoughts your way.Amy Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17908786483991122600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-79015727296109825402011-10-21T19:21:57.355-07:002011-10-21T19:21:57.355-07:00Hey KJ - I could have written this exact post abut...Hey KJ - I could have written this exact post abut 18 months ago. My son went from thrilled to go to school to a disastrous first grade year that I think now, as he starts 4th grade, we are recovering. Our home school is a spanish immersion school, so you can guess how a kid who has a hard time focusing did when half his day was in a language he didn;t know. So moving him to another school was step one. I also was highly reluctant to go the medication route, but I've found that it doesn't change his personality, he's not strung out at all, but his ability to concentrate and get school work done is a zillion times better when he's taken his medicine. Monday we forgot - homework took 3 plus hours. Tuesday...homework done before I got home from work. He's on Concerta, the lowest dose, and it's not cumulative - meaning you can take it or not take it day to day. Weekends and during the summer it was his option, school days it's a definite requirement. It does suppress his appetite (as do all similar meds I think) so we definitely don't push it on non-school days - Michael is a skinny guy and needs all the calories we can get in him. It is near impossible to tune out your family, and I know our solution won't necessarily be what works for you and your son, but it's worth giving medication a shot. Feel free to e-mail me any time if you want to talk some more. Hang in there sister!elisabeth https://www.blogger.com/profile/05529131319364988260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-14118796668545130462011-10-21T16:35:52.579-07:002011-10-21T16:35:52.579-07:00If I had kids I'd probably be chock-full of ad...If I had kids I'd probably be chock-full of advice for you. So be glad I am childless. Ha ha! I can't imagine anything harder than being a single mom (unless you're Madonna and you have a bazillion dollars). How you ladies work all day and then come home and parent amazes me. (Hard even for married ladies!) I guess you can do anything when you love someone! Schooling is such a mixed bag, much of it (in retrospect) was probably a waste of time. We all come out of grade school/high school/college at different stages of the game, and I imagine most of us would say we learned the most important/useful stuff in "real life." Sure, basic knowledge and skills, as well as effective work habits and critical thinking are vital, but that happens throughout our lives, and the majority of it probably outside of formal schooling. Solid B-grades are something to cheer (with a crappy teacher no less!), your little guy is clearly very intelligent. If his grades slip a little, it's not the end of the world and life is long and he will continue to learn what he needs to know for life. I think your love and support (and advocacy!) is the biggest factor in giving him a safe place to do that. I have no doubt you will figure it out together and he will be just fine. Hang in there Super Mom!lunedreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12194017326383981105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-37573466958842300342011-10-21T15:50:59.204-07:002011-10-21T15:50:59.204-07:00Don't worry about the book reviews, don't ...Don't worry about the book reviews, don't worry about jewelry or blog posts,...unless you find they calm and relax you. Then, by all means, take time for yourself and do them!<br /><br />ADD and ADHD are painful to have and painful to watch our kids have. It can be very frustrating for the patient and extremely worrisome for the parent. All you need to worry about now is taking care of the two of you. Deep breaths...in and out. <br /><br />It sounds to me like you are trying very hard to be a good mom and to do the right thing to provide the best care and the best present and future for your son. <br /><br />I don't think you can go very wrong when you have those priorities. <br /><br />Wishing the very best for both of you,<br /><br />SharylSharylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11290002867469159820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-76654173576406357322011-10-21T13:57:20.832-07:002011-10-21T13:57:20.832-07:00I do not have any experience with this issue, but ...I do not have any experience with this issue, but I just would like to give you a supportive cyber-hug.<br />I'm wondering, also, if the school has any counseling available. Certainly Ryan is not the only ADD kid in the school.<br />You can only do your best, and try to keep him on track.<br />And maybe hunt down his dad for a little back child support. He really should be helping you, if not physically, then at least, monetarily. Hang in there!!!Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12337101534643323960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-83370580562651212232011-10-21T13:45:00.108-07:002011-10-21T13:45:00.108-07:00We are struggling with similar issues with our 3rd...We are struggling with similar issues with our 3rd grader as well, so I can definitely empathize with you. I'm glad you realize it's not your fault. I know it will be a struggle, but know that you are not alone. I wish you luck.Mary Newton Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12476789053362992834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-22726089201639168902011-10-21T13:40:01.299-07:002011-10-21T13:40:01.299-07:00My heart goes out to you. I can only guess how har...My heart goes out to you. I can only guess how hard it is to raise a child solo, and I have no idea what it must be like to deal with ADD.<br />The thing that shines through is that you have never given up, never wavered, have screwed up your courage and gone on regardless and I admire this immensely. Bravo my dear hold your head up high<br />xx<br />GreerVintajia Adornmentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08793014765086434877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-43483836665016044932011-10-21T13:31:50.899-07:002011-10-21T13:31:50.899-07:00Oh Kelly, I'm so sorry for what is going on. ...Oh Kelly, I'm so sorry for what is going on. I'm sure you are a great mom. It is incredibly hard to do it all yourself. I have 2 kids and my ex sees them for 48 hours every two weeks. he does pay child support but not insurance anymore because he got laid off, and now he wants to reduce the amount he pays and is taking me to court and I have to pay my attorney to help me. Have you ever taken his dad to court for child support? You need to do that. I wish I could help you out, I'm thinking about you and hoping things look better for you!SueBeadshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11864619666721794935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7705112.post-81214610129418928372011-10-21T12:42:11.641-07:002011-10-21T12:42:11.641-07:00I can completly relate to your situation, and plea...I can completly relate to your situation, and please belive me it will get better.<br />http://thegoodthebadandtheboyohboy.blogspot.com/Niky Sayershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02403350799209777898noreply@blogger.com